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Love, fail and Love again and fail again.

Love.
Love is the only thought running through my head from early morning and mind you it is love and not the lover.
Questions like,
Why did I fall for this guy?
What attracts me in this particular person?
Why do you I usually fight on this particular topic?
Why do I willing for guys with a particular mindset?

And all this is because I recently discovered that there is a consistent pattern in the guys I have had dated before. And therefore it was very important for me to do a certain kind of analysis to understand the pattern I created for my own destruction.

And this is what came to my Head

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So the thing with every relationship or any kind of dating is that the base is to all is that first guy I had dated.

 

My trust issues, my insecurities, me being scared of commitment it all comes from the same one relationship that I had and now I have start working on those aspects of it and actually grow along with those limitations.

 

Have you analyzed what decides the longevity or failure of your relationships?

 

Tell me in the comment section below and or write to me about it on shethiyadharti@gmail.com

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Love That is yet to Be Found!

August has come out to become a month where all I can think about is self-growth and impeccable love that one should have for self. And as my head dwelled upon the concept of self-love and growth a small poem got came dancing inside my head.

“A seed I am that fell to the ground
Let love breathe within
And let all the veins feel emotions
and dreams survive beyond the dream…

– Dharti Shethiya ”

Isn’t this what we exactly wish for others when we love them and think of their well being. So why not wish the same for self.

Work, hustle, financial growth and everything else is important but we seldom forget that none of these would be worth if you are not happy inside. Forcing yourself into something will never lead to mental stability.

So my darlings let us take a step beyond and work upon happiness and find things that help you find content within.

do something different, let’s run after happiness and inner well being and every other desire and dreams of yours will manifest itself naturally.

tell me in the comments below or write to me about what helps you be you and what is happiness to you?

You can also write to me about it at shethiyadharti@gmail.com

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Your girl,

Dharti

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When Everyday Is A Restart!

Its 1st of August today and we are done with more than half of 2019 and it is now the right time to review the month and check on self and understand how far have taken our dreams and how much have we worked on self-growth and self-love.

So let’s do something together.

Let us make a list of all the things that we did year-round that we remember and feel is an important part of what you are today and how you feel at the moment. These memories or events or memories can be anything. It can be good, bad, awkward, happy, heartbreaking or even things that made you potentially angry.

when you write this beside every event mentioned write about its impact and whether it had a positive or negative impact on you. Not only this kind of self-analysis will help you understand yourself and your growth better but will also help you create a guide that will help you avoid things that break you and list out things that have nurtured you as an individual.

If you want you can create two different lists one for self and the other solely for business or work life or Education. But this at this point it is super essential as it will decide a lot about how will your future years’ functions and what exactly needs to be done.

I know its a time taking process but do not forget it an investment on self and the growth that you have been looking for.

So, ladies and gentlemen lets together hustle, grow and be our support system. Let us together create the change within our-self and around our-self so that we create a life that we have been wanting and make life grand.

you can also share it with me on my email address: shethiyadharti@gmail.com

All the best, love!

Your girl,
Dharti Shethiya

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Love is Love!

I am so insanely honored and proud to be around and with the LGBTQ+ community. They are strong, courageous, beautiful, and damn do they know how to party. That being said, it was a year full of realizations as well. Realizations that there are so many in this world that can’t do what they love doing right now, for their safety. There are many who will live a life so full of fear and shame that something as simple as sexual orientation will be kept a dark and painful secret forever.

It wasn’t a shock to realize and sit with any of these things because there was a point in one’s life where a person feels he was doomed to the same fate. I feel grateful that people have started coming out and the experience isn’t equally violent as before, but some aren’t so lucky and that wrecks me.

So I guess if anyone out there reading this feels the weight of that secret or feels so terrified to embrace whatever their true self is, reach out. I’m here to talk and help in any way that I can. I’m here to tell you that you’re fierce and safe and wanted and loved and so so needed on this planet. It takes a village to live a free life, but know you’re not alone. It gets better and it gets easier, I know that in my soul.

To those who came before it was not okay to or rather was a taboo, those who spoke out, those who stood up, those who fought- thank you. Thank you for your voice, thank you for your sacrifice. Because of you, they are able to celebrate love and this collective history in an unbelievably diverse country.

Your Girl,
Dharti

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PLEASE DO NOT IGNORE! 

So yesterday on my writing account I did a rant!
I guy DM’ed me about how a girl with curves is extremely exciting and it certainly brought back to me memories of all creepy DMs I have ever gotten.
From “hey, sexy” to dick pics to creepy stalkers.
While I shared my views on it, the most common response was, “ignore them”
Well, the problem is this ignorance, not raising the voice against the wrong is the biggest wrong… Please raise your voice. If you are a writer, write about it, if you have received any such DM, share the screenshot. Get the account down and if it’s too much, you can file a complaint with cyber crime branch.
PLEASE DO NOT IGNORE!

And most importantly It’s not about what is bothering me and what is not. I give zero fucks about what people think, but, I believe that our ignorance towards this behavior is somewhere giving them the power to continue. They enjoy the ignorance and so now is the high time to raise a voice.

And I request all of you to do so!

Your Girl,
Dharti

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Be A Potato!

You are a Potato!!!

Now when I say that many of you would come with different interpretations of this statement and the most common ones, of course, will be “fat,” “ugly,” and “stupid.” But darling when Potato was never meant to be an insult! How can a vegetable loved by all age groups, behind the existence of French Fries and a savior in every dish be an insult?

 

For me, Potato means a savior, a kind that mixes with every other kind, the one that holds on to you in cold and in heat and brightens up your mood, no matter what!

So here is a small poetry for my wonderful Potatoes!

 

Darling, you are so fine
With love flowing in your bloodline
I am glad I can call you mine
And never in your life forget
to be a person like you is a blessing in disguise!
So go kiss the world darling,
toe the line,
You are Potato and you must shine!

(Maybe not the best poem you have read but try to feel the love I have put in it!)

You are a Potato!!!

 

Your girl,
Dharti!

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Falling out of love!

I believe that many of us have had faced this at some of the other points in our lives. Maybe in a relationship or in a friendship or probably with an object. We tend to fall out of love with something or someone we have been obsessing about for a very long period of time. And the reason I write is to tell you that it happens. That falling out of love is a thing and it can happen to you too even if it hasn’t happened yet!

So it is very recent where my friend was talking about how she has fallen out of love with the guy she had been dating since almost 5years. It started with, “It does not feel the same anymore.” and then she went on for hours about everything wrong in that relationship that she was completely into at least a few months back!

So to people who have fallen out of love and cannot confess, here is a little piece for you guys!

” Say it to your partner, be gentle with your words and do not let your irritation that you have for your own emotion come in between. Tell them what you feel and set them free if you think there is no going back to being in love. Hiding what you feel just because you do not want to hurt the person and then doing it in an amplified manner, however, in the end, is not a real solution.”

It is going to be difficult to explain, but it is necessary!

And to people who are going to face this conversation, here is something for you!

” You are going to hate that person for a very long period of time and it going to hurt but darling forcing someone to reflect your emotion with the same intensity did no good ever. You will have to listen and understand. I know that it is easy to say and harder to face it in real but it is wrong to give your heart false hopes too.”

And no matter what, feel free to write me, if nothing more, I can at least listen to my reading family!

And above all, believe in yourself!

Your Girl,
Dharti Shethiya!

 

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Just 1 Milimeter Away!

Have you ever dreamt of achieving something and ended up wanting to give up?
Have ever thought that you have reached the crux and now there is nothing more left to dig?
Did you a goal that excited you but now no more seems achievable?

Let me tell you this one thing friend!
You were only 1 millimeter away when you gave up,
You had to dig only 1 more millimeter to reach your goal,
You had to walk only one more millimeter to be where you wanted to be!

But baby you gave up, you lacked passion!

It is still not late, you can still try! We can start from the very beginning. It is going to be hard. Easy is not an option, you may be 25 right now and you have to take up a job to make some money but your dreams will be sacrificed if you do a job. At 40 suddenly giving up everything and following your dream is going to take a lot of strength. But you gotta do what you gotta do!

You have to make your decision as per your dream and all these decisions must be reflected in your actions and these actions will take you 1 millimeter closer to your goal!

Find out the people who do it, see how they do it better than you! what do they have in them that make them better than the rest of the world!

This is a good time to start, stop waiting for perfect time, day or moment! Now is the time! No opportunities must be wasted! there are 86,400 seconds in a day and that is a lot of time if you make a good use of it!

 

So keep moving, remember you are only 1 millimeter away!

While I will always here to listen to you, to help you grow and give you the push that you need!
Feel free to write to me at talktodharti@gmail.com

 

Your Girl,
Dharti

 

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No Body Cares About you!

Today early in the morning I had a conversation with one of my good friends. Well, it was mostly about him crying and complaining that nobody cares about him and that he is tired of walking alone and all those rants that even you often go about too! So I thought I should share with you what I told him because all of us need to hear this and understand this for own development!

First thing first, Nobody Cares about your dreams, all they think about is their ROI on your dreams. For example Parents: How will you run this house with that much money, life partner: I do not think we can have a stable life with this passion of yours, etc etc!

The point is people will try to find their comfort zone in your dreams, and if they won’t be able to find it, they are going to reject, deny and lower your dream!

You know yourself better than others, you know what is good and bad for you! You know who is good and bad for you and you know what is the good bad IN you! Do not wait for a motivator to come and tell you to start working on your dream, or to come and tell you why self-discipline is important or tell you why drugs are bad and you must not do them!

 

It’s your dream, it’s your passion and it must be your brain too! Set in the value system of your life, the value system of your dream, of your business and of your relationship with others! bringing in the self-discipline does not mean you are free, it rather means that unlike others you know what is important for your own growth and that it is the only thing that will help you to be true to yourself!

Life is what you make of it guys! You can either sit and complain or get up and get going. Either of them will decide where will you be 10years from now. So choose wisely!

 

NOBODY CARES ABOUT YOU, YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE YOU NEED TO GROW!

Your Girl,
Dharti

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The Hate In You Kills You!

Have you ever hated somebody so much that whenever you see that person you wish to stab him?
Have you put the time into plotting a destruction plan against somebody?
Have you prayed ill for someone?
Then, darling, you are destroying yourself!

Let me explain a very simple concept to you guys today!
And here I am going to rant some science and philosophy.

When you hate someone with all your heart and mind. You are putting yourself into a lot of negative energy. This kind of negativity ruins your immune system, gives you negative mood swings and most importantly it makes you a terrible person.
Ask yourself, is this who you are? Does your heart really agree to this? does your value system agree to this?

I know there might be some really strong reason for you to hate that person so much. s/he might have done something unforgivably wrong to you. But, is your action rightful?
What will be the difference between you two if you too act the same way?

And above all, is that person really worth the time and energy that you are putting in for hating that person?

I am not asking you to forget everything and move on! Remember the person, remember the lesson, be wiser next time, but also, forgive that person. Forgiveness will give you the kind of internal peace that you can’t even imagine!

Or else talk to somebody about it, vent out for feelings!

If you feel you have nobody, write to me, I promise I will read every word and reply but vent things out!

If you want to write to me, here is my email address for you guys: talktodharti@gmail.com

But sweety move on, negativity brings no good to anyone!

Your Girl,
Dharti